Any parent of teenagers knows that the teen years can make the terrible twos look like child’s play. Teenagers are going through a lot and it’s sometimes hard for them—and for us parents to remember were all on the same team.
Ideally, teenagers go through a rebellious phase and come out with a strong sense of self. This may look like a battle between fathers and sons—rest assured it is not. There is hope. Try some of these tips to help you both thrive toward achieving independence:
GIVE HIM RESPONSIBILITY
If done in a positive tone, giving your son responsibility around the house shows him that you trust him. Small gestures of responsibility will give him a feeling that you view him as a young man. This will instill a sense of pride and gratitude to you for trusting him.
TAKE A TIME-OUT
Standing next to your son and quietly trying to catch a fish gives you the opportunity to just be with one another. Fishing offers a space where there is no battle of who is in charge. In the simple act of fishing, you teach your son the art of patience.
PROVIDE SPACE
In any relationship, sometimes a little space is necessary. If you step away and keep it casual, chances are more than likely that your teenage son will seek you out if you give him the opportunity to.
FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE
Just because your son wants to do things differently does not make his choice wrong. If your son does not want to go to college, see if you can find a compromise. Many young graduates are taking gaps years between graduation and attending school to focus on what truly motivates them. Defuring college does not mean he won’t return. Remember, when raising young men, letting go will allow him to grow.
