Saying, “I love you,” multiple times a day to your child is probably something you do. But, do you ever feel you’re kids might not be hearing your words—or may not believe you? Most parents need to know the emotional needs of their children, and need to develop skills to meet those needs. Want to increase your skill set, take a look at some of the concepts best selling author Ross Campbell shares in his book, “How to Really Love Your Child.”
The most important relationship in the family is the marital relationship. Both the quality of the parent-child bond and the child’s security depend on the quality of the marital bond.
Unconditional love is the foundation of healthy parent-child relationships. Every child wants to know, “Do you love me?” However, a child asks this emotional question mostly through behavior—it is rarely communicated verbally.
Parents convey love to children in four ways: eye contact, physical contact, focused attention, and loving discipline.
Every child has an “emotional tank” that can only be filled by love. Only if the emotional tank is full can a child be expected to be at his best and do his best.
“Most parents have a feeling of love toward their children and assume that they convey this love to a child. This is one of the greatest parental errors made.”
“Without a foundation of unconditional love, parenting becomes a confusing and frustrating burden. What is unconditional love? Unconditional love is loving a child no matter what. No matter what the child’s assets, liabilities, handicaps. No matter what we expect the child to be. And most difficult, regardless of how the child acts.”
“Consciously refusing to make eye contact with a child is usually more painful than any other punishment. It can be devastating. It can be one of those incidents that a child will never forget”
“A boy’s need for physical contact never ceases, even though the type of physical contact he needs changes as he matures”
“A girl’s need for physical contact (especially the more affectionate type) increases in importance as she becomes older and reaches a zenith at around the age of eleven.”